Writing and Stuff

The friendship thing is tough. I'm one of those people who is terrible about sending regular e-mails, and the result is that I fall out of touch with people cause I also don't like phones that much. If it wasn't for LJ and Facebook, I think I'd be in serious trouble. And I agree about lasting friendships - there are a few types of friends - those of convenience, those that stay casual no matter how long or how closely thrown together you are, etc. - but for me the ones that really matter are those that, when you haven't seen the person for a year, you sit down and start talking and within 10 minutes its like you've never been apart (except for all the catching up that's still left to do. :) ) And those just don't come along often. For what it's worth as reassurance, I made more close friendships like that while I was in Graduate school than at any other point in my life (heck, I think I made more in grad school than in the rest of my life combined). And it definitely is different when the friends are close by than when they are far away - the friend you can call no matter what kinda has to be close (not that I don't feel I can call my friends who are farther, but I'm reluctant to because it would inconvenience them so much).

But transitions are tough - my experience, in terms of friendship, is that you get back what you put in. I put a LOT of work into building friendships in Indiana (where I went to grad school) and it paid amazing dividends - but it wasn't easy to start with. Meanwhile, since I've moved to NYC I've done basically nothing...and shockingly enough I've got no new friends. (basically). I wish you luck, though! It can be done!!

And no, those jerks wouldn't let me walk up the escalator. Aarrrrgh.