Well...

[unforth]

Well, reading through LJ, I see that deadmanwade has pretty much covered the things that I might have said, accurately and fairly. For those who don't read both journals, I broke up with him yesterday, and since then we've spoken a lot and have decided to basically go for a "temporary separation." I'll move out of Knightridge and go...somewhere...and we'll tackle things from the perspectives we've gained by talking through this mess, and see if things can't be fixed. Things are still messy, but I, too, am hopeful that our current plans will work out. We both have things we are going to try to do to help to repair the problems that prompted this decision on my part, and then we'll just take it from there and see how things go. If it was worth putting 5 years into, it's worth working to fix.

I'm currently staying at buzzermccain's house, but I need to find a place to live myself on a fairly immediate level, since I won't feel comfortable until I have a place to call "home." I'll probably start looking tomorrow, but I need to get a handle on my school work, which is way tough with all the stuff going on in my head right now.

Life, inevitably, has a way of going on.

Comments

[d-c-m.livejournal.com]

First: WHAT?

Second: I've got a place for you. My mother is evicting her current tenant thus her home is available. Call me at 876-8408 for details. It is affordable, pretty and closer to campus and the Mall.

Third: I love you.

[kniedzw.livejournal.com]

Dear Lord. How's that for service?

[unforth.livejournal.com]

No kidding...I'll be in touch! Thanks!

[kniedzw.livejournal.com]

As I said elsewhere, let swan_tower and me know if there's anything we can do to help, even if it's just getting together to watch a movie or hanging out.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Thanks, I expect I'll take you up on that in the next few days. ;)

[mistress-sin.livejournal.com]

hugs hon!! lots and lots of hugs.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

We'll talk. :) How late is it normally okay to call you?

[mistress-sin.livejournal.com]

about ten o'clock. and i'm going to try to come to the city in may with tom.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

That'd be spiffy!

[dyrecorn.livejournal.com]

As I told deadmanwade, if you need anything, want to talk, want to work some stress out with boffer weapons, etc., give us a call.

If there's anything we can do to make things easier for you guys, we will.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much! I really appreciate it.

[fallenrose.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[unforth.livejournal.com]

*hug*

[kendokamel.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

I'm very sorry to hear things worked out this way for you.

I'm not sure if you're looking for long-term or not, or what your price range is for you, but the one-bedrooms in my neighborhood are $524/month, and include water/sewage and trash pickup. It's also on the 6 route.

If you find you need to crash someplace for a couple of days, let me know, and I can clean up my spare room.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

That's a little bit more than I'm hoping to pay for that amount of space, but I'll definitely keep it in mind. That area seems pretty nice.

[sarcastibich.livejournal.com]

As I said to J on his LJ, Mike and I offer our friendship and support to both of you. If there is anything we can do to help either of you, ask.

*hugs* Love and Luck to you.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Thanks! And I'm sorry if this causes you guys any inconvenience over the weekend, you should check with deadmanwade

[sarcastibich.livejournal.com]

Don't worry about us. Out of consideration for the two of you we have made alternate plans. We'll be staying at the Downey's.

[xaniquen.livejournal.com]

I'm glad you and jay talked about it, and it seems like the wise and proper way to handle the situation. This seems a lot better than unilateral action. I hope you both come to the best decision in time, whatever that might be, and if you need anything, just let me know.

On the plus side, this lets me become even MORE of a hermit. Bwa ha ha.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

You are not permitted to use us as an excuse to be more of a hermit! Bad xaniquen! Bad!

[mistress-sin.livejournal.com]

i will drag you kicking and screaming from under that rock that you would call home!!!

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Yes, make him scream! er...I mean...uh...make him leave the house! Yeah!

[xaniquen.livejournal.com]

Okay pot, I concede that I am indeed black.

[swan-tower.livejournal.com]

If it was worth putting 5 years into, it's worth working to fix.

I wholeheartedly agree, and I hope that, one way or another, you two find a way to work this out that's best for both of you.

[sapphohestia.livejournal.com]

That was the statement which jumped out at me as well. I'm very glad to hear that you guys are able to talk things through, and I hope you find your ways to a place that's good and happy for you both, be that place together or apart. You're both such wonderful people, I hope you find a situation that makes you both happy.

BenO's (kitty_bitch's) little sister is desperate for a subletter for her apartment which, conveniently, is within walking distance of the library school and downtown (near 10th/Grant). I'll have him contact you.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Thanks guys! And I'll talk to Ben. :) I'm also talking to d_c_m...

[tooth-and-claw.livejournal.com]

Even though I would be lying if I said I knew you super well, I hope everything works out, and I get where you are coming from. i hope you understadn that no one I know is choosing sides in this.

As for places to live, there are a TON of discounted summer sublets opening up. Check the Bloomington LJ list.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

The fact that no one has been choosing sides (as far as I can tell) has been one of the most reassuring things about this entire situation for me. :) I owe all ya a huge thank you for that one! One I'll probably repeat in a later post when I'm less sleepy. :)

[drydem.livejournal.com]

this is really not a group to take sides. All the break-ups I've seen(including ones I've been involved in) have been ultimately amicable outside the participants.
If you need anything, just let me know.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Thanks. :) And it's a good way for a group to be; it makes it easier for everyone to know that social lives won't get ruined in addition to everything else that is part of a situation like this one.

[mindstalk.livejournal.com]

Whoah. Good luck, to both of you!

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

[gollumgollum.livejournal.com]

Luck and love, and if you ever wanna hang, just call, yo.

-kate-

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Thanks!

[cihuacoatl.livejournal.com]

Yeah...I'm about to post that I need a place to live too... We might want to talk.

[saracariad.livejournal.com]

Hey you-
you know that there's always a spot for you on my couch or hey, in my bed!
Of course, you'll have to dig it out... You've seen my house.
I hope everything will work. I have a little rousing speech to give the both of you if you feel like hearing it. It's very reminiscent of one Deadmanwade gave me and mine not too long ago. I love you both very much.
-Sara-

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Thanks - and I look forward to the rousing speech. :) As far as I know, I will be at Conchordia tomorrow, by the by, but deadmanwade will not...see ya then.

[closetgnome.livejournal.com]

Many, many hugs to you, Claire. You're always welcome over at our place too (and we have a spare bedroom complete with computer and broadband access if it should come down to it)...as long as you don't mind many furry animals running around.

*hug* Hope everything works out the way you (and Jason) want it to.

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Thanks. :) buzzermccain is being totally awesome and letting me crash at her place as long as necessary, so I think it's covered, but I really appreciate it. :)

[ultimabaka.livejournal.com]

I'm gonna keep tryin to call ya up (even if it winds up being really late and all), but I feel bad hearin this. Granted, Jay and I obviously didn't get along too well, but when you guys were together, you were happy (or at least ya seemed), and seeing you happy always made me feel happy too.

Hopefully you guys work your shit out. I was lookin forward to buyin my sweet tux $

On a lighter note, maybe I should move out there too. 1400 a month for a small one bedroom doesn't sound too good in comparison to some of what I'm hearing out there ;)
-- Gerardo

[unforth.livejournal.com]

Prices here are a little high for a town this size; on the other hand, they are very low when compared to NYC. ;)

As for working it out and the like, I think that things are going to be okay. We were definitely happy and, I hope, we will be happy again.